Have you ever noticed how food tastes different and is actually healthy for you when someone serves it with love… and how bland it feels when it’s just a transaction?
Strange, isn’t it? But that’s the result of different kind of love. Not the movie-song kind with violins playing in the background – or even those animated blast of love-reels. Mind you nothing makes it better – but something far more beautiful subtle / pure — spiritual love.
We live in a world where Valentine’s Day roses are more expensive than a week’s groceries, where Instagram reels shout louder about romance than our own inner voice. And in all this glitter, the essence of true love often gets buried. So, let try to bring it up again together.
Contrary to drama-laced stories of Radha and Krishna, they had pure spiritual love for each other. Radha didn’t wonder if he had bought her some gift or he should behave according to her wishes. When Meera Bai sang to her beloved Lord, she wasn’t asking for likes and shares for her songs – she was expressing pure love.
Across religions and traditions — whether it’s the Sufi saints lost in the Beloved, or bhaktas chanting without expectation — true love was never about possession. It was about dissolving.
When stripped of contracts and calculations human heart becomes a temple of pure love – spiritual love.
But here’s the catch: we often confuse love with attachment. Astrology shows us this beautifully. Venus (Shukra), the planet of love, when combined with Saturn, may bind us in karmic debts — teaching lessons about responsibility. But Venus with Jupiter? That’s devotion, expansion, and grace. Same word “love,” two entirely different vibrations. When love flows through Venus, it seeks harmony, beauty, and dharma. Now imagine that through Rahu. When Rahu clouds it, love turns karmic — intense, magnetic, even fated, yet often meant to teach rather than to keep. Both are necessary: Venus refines, Rahu awakens. Thats the beauty of Dharmik and Karmic love.
So what are they key elements, how ingredients are to be mixed to get this kind of love – you ask? let me tell you quickly.
Bhakti – Devotion That Melts the Ego
Bhakti is not begging. It is not even asking. It is surrender. It is the soft rain that nourishes the soil of the soul. Radha’s bhakti was not about holding Krishna’s hand – or to be constantly around him; it was about letting go of her own self into him. Meera Bai danced barefoot, caring little for worldly eyes, because her bhakti made her fearless.
True bhakti in relationships is this: when you respect your partner not as “mine,” but as a divine soul entrusted to your care. Don’t you think that it is lighter to love when ownership drops away?
Karuna – Compassion as Love’s Extension
What is love without compassion? Karuna is the lamp that keeps love from becoming selfish. Parents know this — they stay awake through the night for a child’s fever, not for recognition or Insta reels – but because their heart cannot do otherwise.
Imagine bringing a drop of that same compassion to our spouse, friends, our colleagues, even to strangers. Suddenly, love is no longer limited to a chosen few — it flows like a river, nourishing anyone who comes near. Try it, you will feel the power of positivity.
Advaita – Oneness in Love
Advaita says: there are not two, there is only one. When love matures, the lines blur — “you” and “I” dissolve into “we.” Not in a clingy social-media-relationship-status way, but in a cosmic sense.
When you realize the same divine spark burns in your spouse, your sibling, your parent, your neighbor, even the stranger you argue with on the road — love becomes universal. Spiritual love is just Advaita in daily practice.
Pitfalls that we can Avoid…
Pay attention, in this garden of love, some unwanted weed can grow quickly and ruins its purity
- Moha (Delusion): The idea that “without this person, I am nothing..” But weren’t you a whole person before they arrived? Love should add fragrance, not addiction.
- Kama (Desire): Not wrong in itself, but when it rules over respect, it burns more than it warms.
- Vyapar/Vyavahar (Transaction): “I give you this, you give me that.” – or “I can love only if my conditions are met”. Relationships are not stock markets. Love is not a bargain sale.
Balance these, and love regains its purity. Ignore them, and love becomes heavy, conditional, and exhausting.
Now pause for a moment. Think about your parents. Or your sibling. Or that one friend who always stands by you. Isn’t there a strand of love there that expects nothing back? That’s spiritual love at play — quiet, unconditional, pure.
Of course, we’re human. We’ll still argue with our spouse about who left the wet towel on the bed. But the magic happens when we look beyond the towel and see the soul. Respect, patience, laughter — these are not accessories to love, they are love.
You don’t need to wear saffron robes or meditate in the Himalayas to practice it.
Start small. The next time you speak to your partner, don’t measure who gives more – don’t think what you want first. The next time you hug your child, don’t think of what they’ll achieve. When you sit with a friend, listen without planning your reply. That’s spiritual love slipping quietly into your everyday life. No grand declarations, just subtle shifts.
No edits, no filters—just the heart. Don’t reel it, feel it.
And if you allow it, you’ll see what Radha saw, what Meera sang, what Sufis danced for — that love isn’t something you own. It’s something you become.
And here’s my promise – the joy and purity both the souls will feel once you adopt this – will be unmatched. Just try it !
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